After more than a year of planning, it happened…the Financial Intimacy Conference launched this past week in New York City! It was a tremendous success and more satisfying than I could have imagined. Three days later, I remain delirious with excitement — and from exhaustion! In forthcoming posts, I’ll share some of the surprising lessons I learned from producing and curating a project of this scale, such as the “vision within the vision” and related to that “the difference between impact and vision.”
But there’s one lesson I am just itching to share right now: My deepening awareness that what contributes most to one’s success and satisfaction is invisible to others.
Manisha Thakor, one of the speakers on the 2011-2012 Financial Intimacy Conference tour, reminded me of this via an analogy she shared regarding a tree. She described the role of the tree’s trunk, leaves, and roots as it relates to our relationship with money and how we are undergoing a shift from focusing on the trunks and leaves (what you can see) to the roots (what you cannot). Her story further reminded me of a book I’ve re-read several times by Joel Goldsmith, “Invisible Supply.”
Combined, I couldn’t help but reflect and recall that when people experience me via my products, services and ideas, it is a result of actions, choices, and thoughts on my part, which they could/will never see. The same is true for you; what I or anyone else experiences or sees of your work is a by-product of what we’ll never be privy to.
It all begins with our thoughts, which drive our choices, which drive our actions. When we are working on anything, especially something we’ve never done, I really believe 90% of the challenge in seeing it through to completion is the conversations we have with ourselves in the process: Is our self-talk positive and encouraging or negative and discouraging?
If our products, services and ideas are “trees,” our thoughts, choices, and actions are symbolic of the roots of our trees. They are the root of it all. Yes, you have to prune the leaves, but when we want to create, alter or strengthen the tree, we should also focus on the health of the roots. The roots are a significant source of your (and my) success and satisfaction.
So, the next time you congratulate someone on an achievement and/or encounter someone whose success inspires you, after wishing them well, ask them: “How did you think yourself through and to this moment of accomplishment? You may be surprised by what you hear!